Is living with your best friend a good idea?

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I loved living with my best friend for two years. She helped me get used to living in a new environment. However, I did find myself learning new things about her and somethings I didn't exactly vibe well with. But with communication, we were able to work out any miscommunication or problems we had. I think if you are both clear from the start what you expect from each other, living together will be all the more easier. Also consider your respective lifestyles. If you already know you have different standards of cleanliness and sleeping schedules, you are better off not being roommates in order to avoid unnecessary fights in your relationship.
I feel like the only way you can successfully live with anyone, best friend or not, is if you have excellent and healthy communication skills. That's the key to resolving any household disputes (or any other issue, for that matter, since nearly every spat can be boiled down to either a lack of communication or miscommunication). If you and your best friend are great communicators, you'll probably do great living together. Alternatively, if you and your friend are not great communicators and both of you are willing to admit that, the two of you can make a plan to strengthen your communication or practice nonviolent communication techniques in preparation for living together (if you still want to try living together).
From experience, it didn't work out for me when I lived with my best friend. Though we were able to hang out every day and always be together, it turned out we had two very different ideas of living. I was very clean and she wasn't so clean. I liked to go to bed on the early side and she would stay up until the early hours of the morning. People can be best friends, but they may not be the best roommates. Ask yourself if you are both similar enough to live together depending on your lifestyles.
This honestly depends on how similar you and your best friend are. I currently live with one of my best friends and we love the experience because we are similar and we respect one another enough to make compromises and accommodate each other. On the other hand, one of my best friends (who I have known since I was 3-years-old) is so different from me that it would be bad to live with each other. It really just depends on your friend's schedule, the living situation (would you be sharing a room, or would you have your own room), and if you respect and appreciate each other's similarities AND differences.
Many people are afraid to move in with their best friend because they'll lose that friendship completely. Usually, this isn't the case. The case is that the friendship will change. The things you two do together will probably change. The way you communicate with each other might change. I think it is okay to move in with your best friend as long as you both accept that the friendship will probably be different having lived together.
Francine, I know a lot of people who would tell you that this isn't a good idea. But no one knows you or your best friend and how you operate better than the two of you do. If you both think you can do it, by all means, go for it. But I'd evaluate your friendship beforehand. I know a lot of friendships that have been lost due to living together.

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